Enneagram Helping Minimizing Fights One Relationship at a Time

“The Enneagram of Personality, or simply the Enneagram is a model of the human psyche which is principally understood and taught as a typology of nine interconnected personality types (Wikipedia).” I really enjoy Enneagram because it really helps explain why we do what we do. The way we respond to situations, the way we interact with others, and it showcases who you are as a person. There are a few different tests that I recommend:

Pause here and go take your test!

I am a 3w2 (w=wing) meaning I have a little bit of 2 personality but mostly I am a 3. The Achiever. Which honestly was not a shock to me since I have achiever in my top 5 Gallup Strengths results as well. My husband is a 6 with a wing to the 5 (if I had to guess). Understanding both my own and his Enneagram results has been very eye opening. For example, if I noticed that there was something that needed to be done, but no one had told me to do it, I would probably just do it. It is just my instinct to excel and get things done. My husband on the other hand would not do it until someone had told him to. He would be worried that maybe there was a reason it wasn’t done yet and so it wasn’t his place to complete the task. Understanding our differences has made our marriage stronger. We are currently exploring how we can use our Enneagrams to create a better marriage by reading “Becoming Us” by Beth & Jeff McCord (Pre-order the book today!).

Below I will touch briefly on each Enneagram and provide a fictional character I think is from that type!

1: The Perfectionist

The Rational, Idealistic Type: Principled, Purposeful, Self-Controlled, and Perfectionistic


Character: Amy Santiago from Brooklyn Nine-Nine

2: The Giver

The Caring, Interpersonal Type: Demonstrative, Generous, People-Pleasing, and Possessive

Character: Ted Mosby from How I Met Your Mother

3: The Achiever

The Success-Oriented, Pragmatic Type: Adaptive, Excelling, Driven, and Image-Conscious

Character: Jane Villanueva from Jane the Virgin

4: The Individualist

The Sensitive, Withdrawn Type: Expressive, Dramatic, Self-Absorbed, and Temperamental

Character: Barry Stinson from How I Met Your Mother (it is my all time favorite show, I couldn’t help but have more than one)

 5: The Investigator

The Intense, Cerebral Type: Perceptive, Innovative, Secretive, and Isolated

Character: Sheldon Cooper from The Big Bang Theory

6: The Loyalist

The Committed, Security-Oriented Type: Engaging, Responsible, Anxious, and Suspicious

Character: Monica Geller from Friends

7: The Enthusiast

The Busy, Fun-Loving Type: Spontaneous, Versatile, Distractible, and Scattered

Character: Jessica Day from New Girl

8: The Challenger

The Powerful, Dominating Type: Self-Confident, Decisive, Willful, and Confrontational

Character: Octavia Blake from The 100

9: The Peacemaker

The Easygoing, Self-Effacing Type: Receptive, Reassuring, Agreeable, and Complacent


Character: Dr. Miranda Bailey from Grey’s Anatomy

I would love to know what your results are! Share them in the comments below.




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